A little girl in day care tried to bite Baby C again today. I say again as she has bitten her twice right on her face in the same spot and it took forever for it to go away.
This time a co-worker was down in day care visiting her son and saw the little girl trying to bite her but the day care staff stopped it. Now mind you, when the co-worker saw the little girl attempt to bite Baby C, the little girl had JUST got out of her crib from a time out because she'd tried to bite Baby C earlier!!!
My stomach is in knots right now just thinking about it. A few months ago when she got bit on her face I'd get this anxious tight feeling in my stomach EVERY single time I'd go down to see her during my breaks...as descended the stairs I'd pray please don't let her be bitten.
The feeling was just starting to go away and I was just starting to go down the stairs without praying and then bam!!!
I know this time she didn't get bitten but the feeling is the same.
I feel confused also because I invited this little girl to Baby C's birthday party, as I thought I was being mature about the entire situation and that kids will always fight and make up and it would have been immature for me to have invited all the other kids in her day care room except for one.
Right now I feel rather immature and wish I hadn't invited her, right now I don't like the little girl, and I wonder what would happen if she bit a kid at the party.
I hate this feeling. Kansas Nubian said that Baby C would not be bitten ever again and I believe her or I am trying to be a believer but it's hard.
I had the worst thought when they told me what happened. I said in my head what would happen if Baby C turned around and slapped the ever lasting....then I stopped as I knew I would never teach my child to respond to violence with violence.
I know I will feel better tomorrow...but today is today...and I feel teary eyed.
I had to stop this post as the same co-worker came over to talk about something else but I knew she would lead back to the biting and she did.
I worked in a daycare some years ago.We had the same problem with a two year old. She bit another kid in the arm cause she wanted a toy.We told the mother could she talk to her child about bitting. A couple of weekslater she did it again. We told the mother that her child will be getting two days off for doing that.Child came back. Several weeks later she bit a 6 weeks in the eye. I was off when that happened.A child like that have to have one on one child care until they are able to play with other kids. Because we our putting other kids in harm way. Yes we told the mother she couldn't come back. It was a hard decision. The mother was a nice person but we had to think of the other parents.
ReplyDeleteOh no, but omg she looks SO cute in this pic!!!!
ReplyDeleteew...that's gross. Damn little brat, tell C to kick her ass! JK! Wouldn't it be nice though!
ReplyDeleteI wonder how kids instinctively know that biting will hurt someone? Not that that matters or helps you feel any better. But I've always wondered that.
ReplyDeleteWhen Jayla was in daycare, she got bitten a few times too. And I still remember how I felt. I wanted to "take matters into my own hands". But I know we can't do that. And at your daughters age, it's hard to keep kids away from eachother.
Do you know this childs parent(s)? If so, maybe you need to talk to them about this. Be sure to let them know that YOU will handle your business if it keeps up (not sure what that would be though...but I know you're creative) LOL
I'm sorry you're going through this.
Somebody better smack the taste out that kids mouth!
ReplyDeleteSeriously, what is WRONG with her?! I'm kidding, it's a child. However, you've got to look out for you and yourn. I'd start threatening and making ultimatums.
If that kid can't be around other kids w/o taking a taste, she needs to GO! I like what "gold" said about one on one care.
I feel ya, Mama. I can't stand watching somebody hurt my babies. It took me 4 years to start standing up for 'em. I used to worry about what the parents would think, but when other parents turn their head and pretend nothing is happening, you've gotta step up. I am proud to say, I am now "that" mother that stands up and hollers across the playground. Not really, but I am firm. I was always the one to walk away, but I don't want my kid to just take whats given to him. He's just like me and doesn't stand up for himself. I don't want him to be like me in that respect.
Good luck with this situation! It's a toughie...
:)Chrissy
Teary over here for Baby C. Hope it doesn't happen again! Hope you have a better day. Kim PS Hooray for Baby C and her walking adventures!
ReplyDeleteI know how you must feel...it is awful. I know when anyone hurts Grace's feelings I want to react...BIG time. I taught pre school and know biting happens but the parents muct be called in. They must be a part of the solution. You are not over reacting at all. If it continues, sometimes a biting child must be asked to leave. It would not be fair to have this happen to Baby C anymore...her safety is a priority. Poor baby...poor worried Mom. I know how upset I would be.
ReplyDeleteIT is so special that she is walking now...
About the party...no matter how hard we try, more ofte than not, people do NOT answer RSVPs. It is awful! We even paid for kids that did not show and that hurt! It always amazed me that so many adults do not seem to know they MUST Rsvp. WE made goody bags for all who were invited. The unised ones were donated to the homeless shelter for the little ones there. Just an idea.
Hugs,
Sue
My mother did daycare for 30 years, and I can remember how frustrated she'd get when she had a "biter" in the house; some kids just seem to be "inclined" to bite. I'm sure she never came up with any sure-fire way to break a toddler of the habit. Watch 'em like a hawk and discourage the behavior. That kid's parents are probably mortified too; does the daycare TELL them their kid is biting?
ReplyDeletePoor Miss C! She's too adorable!
I feel so awful for you, and my instinct would be to demand my child be moved to another room or something until they can get the biter under control. Don't feel that you are overreacting at all, its your place to protect your child so do whatever you have to do. As far as the birthday party, just be sure to station someone to have their eye on your little sweetie (the pic is so pretty by the way- love the dress) at all times.
ReplyDeleteMy oldest son went through a hitting phase (I was so apologetic and felt horrible when he did it) but I watched him like a hawk to catch him and address the problem immediately.
As a teacher/director of a preschool, biting is a serious issue.
ReplyDeleteI recently had to dismiss a child because of violent behavior. Biting was one of them. But, it needs to be documented.
Are you receiving some sort of accident report in regards to the bite? I would make sure that you are also voicing your concern to the staff about the danger your child is in.
And a time out obviously isn't working for this child. Again, voice your concern.
I hope that this situation ends soon for you. I know how stressful it can be.
Better be careful...the Momma of the biter might be stalking your blog, ROFL
ReplyDeleteI feel for baby C! poor baby! But as an ex-preschool teacher just know that it really is age appropriate for kids her age to occationally bite. I know it sounds horrible, but it usually comes out of frustration rather than malace...of course it never feels that way when it's your kid being bit! Kids of that age don't have the verbal or emotional skills to verbalize their frustrations so they do the next best thing...bite. But Melissa is right...Make sure you get an accident report each time something like that happens. you should get a copy as well as the other childs parent. That way you know it is documented. If it continues to happen with the same child, I would go to the director and insist to develop an action plan for that child and possibly dismiss that child if the behavior continues.
ReplyDeleteIt is so awful when it's happening to your own child! You feel so helpless because you can't be there all the time to protect her! Hopefully that other child will either grow out of it or learn not to bite anymore!
Hugs to you and baby C!
Caught you on ronda's blog....so sorry about the daycare situation, I used to have that problem, then one day my daughter just turned around and socked the kid (no kidding I didn't teach her that) but I did teach her not to let anyone run over her.
ReplyDeleteHope it all turns out well....will think good thoughts.
wow, i would be faeeling the same as you. a little girl scratched Nikolas face all over one time and i just wante to go over spank her :) but i refrained....
ReplyDeleteOh no! I know how you feel. There used to be a biter in Conner's room until she got moved up to another class. And he got bit too. It's terrible! If it happens again, I'd demand they move that child to another room. {hugs}
ReplyDeleteOh man, I just HATE this!!! I never could understand this because none of my three kids ever bit other kids! I just don't see where they get it from! BUT...Sydney was bit one time by a little boy out at the softball park and it freaked me out. But she was okay! Still scared me, though.
ReplyDeleteHope you can resolve the situation!!
OK, I admit it... Lincoln was a horrid biter. I mean, a terrible, draw blood biter. It was weird and he would not stop no matter what the discipline was. He finally just sort of outgrew it. The very weird thing was,he WANTED others to bite him. We called him JAWS. Now, on my end, I ALWAYS watched him like a hawk at playdates, and if he had done that to a younger innocent child... the wrath would have been big time. Does Baby C even know to defend herself against this? If not, I would want the other kid out of the room. Remember you are PAYING for this school... Biting was always grounds for expulsion when I taught. Soooo... in a school setting it cannot continue, and you should stand up for your girl!
ReplyDeleteHEy I feel for Baby C but like Jude I was on the other side. Anthony was a biter. In his defense, it was when his molars were coming in. All of them at once. I used to give him tylenol & jam his mouth full of baby orajel. I also messaged his gums at night. He kept biting. I gave him frozen wash clothes to chew on, teething rings, etc. I even went as far to bite him after he bit his Sister. HE cried, I cried. It was horrible. He wouldn't stop. He bit this one little girl at the daycare (where he was only one day a week), and the mom called child services on me. I felt like I was the worse mommy in the world. HRS told me I was doing all I could but that didn't help me or him feel better. I took him out of daycare because I could. I felt uber protective over him which probably carried over when he was diagnosed with ADD. I don't know what this mom is like or how she is handling it all but I know from my point of view, an invite to a party after all I went through would feel like a great big blessing from God. So I guess I am saying, you are doing the right thing!
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