I found myself reading this post "Kiss the cook" and it reminded me of this tweet I sent out last week:
When I tweeted it my friends all seemed to be having one of "those" days.
One couldn't attend our first book club meeting because she had no one to watch her kids though I'm sure her other half was sitting at home twiddling his thumbs.
Another friend had someone come and get her son 2 hours before the book club so she could go and I have no idea what that kids father was doing why he couldn't watch their kid but in the past he's been at home twiddling his thumbs as well.
One friend text me "Who's watching Baby C?"
I wrote back "Her darn father!"
She replied "What a foreign concept! LOL"
After reading the post "Kiss the cook" I commented
"My husband is a saint compared to most...he cooks Mondays and Wednesday, I Tuesdays Thursdays and Sundays...Friday and Saturday left overs or eating out.But while I do commend Big C for being the father he should be and then some, I also feel the torn between what I continued to tweet that afternoon....
I do the laundry Wednesdays and Fridays and I fold the clothes and he puts them away.
We also sit down on Sunday nights and divide up what needs to be addressed around the house so that might include him scrubbing the bathroom tile one week me the next etc.
But I have to add without a list he'll do NOTHING, he'll also walk over things as if they're not there no matter what they are! LOL"
If I was a stay at home mom I'd have no convictions about doing 100% of household chores and child raising.
Hey thanks for the shout out. So do you think that stay at home mums, or dads for that matter, should do 100% of the household chores?
ReplyDeleteI can't speak for all but I know when I was laid off for a year I felt obliged to do 100% of the work just because I didn't have to wake up at the crack of dawn and I could sit down and watch a bit of tv if I felt so inclined in the middle of the day.
DeleteYeah, I hear you. But I assume when you were laid off you still the school run etc.
ReplyDeleteInteresting post. :)
I'm a stay at home mom and I do pretty much all the chores except for mowing the lawn. I do appreciate when Husband will clean up after a dinner that I made, but since he always leaves things to "soak" and would rather sit all the things that he DID wash on the counter on top of a towel rather than dry them, I'd usually rather do it myself anyway.
ReplyDeleteI've been sick for about four weeks now, and my husband picked up some of the slack. I went downstairs to put some towels in the laundry today and found a black lace top of mine with some towels in the dryer, the setting left on high heat. I used to think that he did that kind of thing to get out of doing the laundry, but then I realized that he shrunk two of his own shirts too, so I think he really just doesn't understand laundry (even though I've explained it two him countless times over the years).
I have no idea where this comment is going, but I thought it would be nice to chime in and let you know that I can tell from your blog that we would get along very nicely. Thanks for coming over to mine and commenting so that I could find you! :)
You make me laugh already...my comments often mirror this one where I have to catch myself. LOL
DeleteI am a new stay at home mom and I feel like I should be doing 100%of the work but my husband chips in when and where he can. I don't mind. I am trying to do my part and at this point taking care of the home is my contribution. Sometimes my single mom friends make me feel guilty for my situation. I never know how to respond.
ReplyDeleteI often feel guilty as well. Especially in this situation where my cousin couldn't even attend our first book club meeting because she had no one to watch the kids and I automatically always have my husband to watch my daughter if I want to go out. I can't imagine what it's like to be a single mom unless your babies father is a consistent dad and takes the child or a regular basis in which case you could have every other weekend FREE!!! LOL
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