Mixed Emotions

Baby C was off from school starting last Wednesday... as Big C and I had to work she went to my Aunts house on Thursday night so she could be watched by my Aunt Friday.

Friday night came and Baby C called and said

"Mommy you have two options. You can either come and get me tonight and then bring be back Saturday around 6pm so I can go to church with Auntie so I can see the children sing in church.  

Or  

You can bring me some church clothes tonight and I can just go directly to church tomorrow with Auntie....but mommy if you bring me clothes I'd like a dress, a necklace, and some lipstick...so which option will it be?"

I had nothing but respect for Baby C when she gave me these two options. She was concise, to the point and didn't mince words.

This girl challenges my Aunt every time she goes over there. I mean challenges her to the point that my Aunt has to put her foot down and my Aunt feels guilty.

I'm sure it's mentally draining for my Aunt but boy does Baby C love going over there!

I honestly feel bad that my daughter challenges my Aunt constantly.

But while I try to come up with the words to have in a conversation with Baby C on this topic, I realize I'm also potentially asking Baby C to change who she really is.

My daughter is a challenge, she doesn't take "NO" for an answer, she questions EVERYTHING, and tries to outwit and outlast everyone. She's definitely not a wall flower and I question why would I ever want to change that.

Yes she probably needs a lesson on how to curtail it and appropriately put it forward to her Aunt versus her school friends on the playground but I've come to accept that she has the skill set that will allow her to get through in life.

She'll never be a doormat, she'll never allow someone to walk all over her, she'll never be someone who "agrees just to agree", she'll hopefully always push through and not give up so easily in life.

She'll always be Baby C.