Wow did that post about life being boring raise a few sleepy eyebrows!! It’s all good though as I love that we can all converse about one thing or another and I love the varying opinions…you know me...I love that part of life. Heck life would really be boring if we all thought alike. I just wanted to make sure that people didn’t think I was jealous of my friend, I’m actually overjoyed and happy that she is experiencing all this and yes I am one of those people that gets more joy out of giving a gift rather than receiving one, so just living vicariously through my friends emails, pictures and words is more than enough for me.
What I was trying to get across in my post and probably did a poor job was that I wish had done more BEFORE I decided to settle down. I LOVE my life, motherhood, the loving husband and the comfy house is more than I could ask for and I honestly thank god for allowing me to be where I am now...especially when I think of thousands less fortunate. I cry when I watch the news...I really do and I’m not pregnant before you ask if it’s my hormones! LOL
I’m one of those anal planners so I wasn’t having a baby until I had a stable job, (which if I keep spending time blogging won’t be stable for long! LOL) a big enough house and when I say big, I just mean at least one dedicated bedroom for the little one...I don’t mean that mansion on the hill, I just didn’t want to struggle in a studio apartment or something and the most importantly I had to feel secure in my relationship with my husband.
Once I felt comfortable with all of these things then I was ready to try and have a child. But as my friend Dawn correctly pointed out, time waits for no man, so I had to pray that god was on the same schedule as I was and would allow for me to get pregnant when I wanted to. I’m really not a religious person but I knew I wasn’t getting pregnant on my own; a higher power had a lot to do with it.
So obviously, I was the one that decided it was time for me to settle down, and sometimes I wish I knew how long I had on this earth so that I might have traveled a bit more, been a daredevil for a little longer, and experienced the world a bit more, all before settling in my comfy little world that I love now. And I’m not saying this like my life is over already but when I see the bungee cord at the amusement park I don’t feel it’s worth the risk anymore now that I have a little one. But if I didn’t have her I’d go for it as I’ve always wanted to try it...I’d especially want to try it off a waterfall in some remote part of the world!!!
I know the grass is greener on the other side and I’m not even looking at the grass on the other side as I love the grass in my own front yard!
I’m basically just relishing in the moments of my friend and wishing I had done a little more in my earlier years that’s all...
Not sure how many of you got to read my friends response to all our comments about her life I think she put it all very nicely!!!
How sweet of you to feel that you had to explain YOUR feelings and thoughts. It was very clear to me what you were saying and I'd be lying if I said I didn't feel the same way at times. But like you, I LOVE the life I have now and wouldn't change it for the world...nor the path to have gotten here.
ReplyDeleteNo question that your friend is living a life that most of us would love to HAVE lived or have lived longer. But that's obviously not where we are now. Like you said, if everyone did the same things at the same times, life WOULD be boring.
Once again, another great post. I like "my grass" too...it's just green enough :-). Enjoy your week.
I'm in Arizona still, there is no grass. I miss my grass back home.
ReplyDeleteBut it wasn't green enough when we were there, so we bought an RV and left to travel the country. In hindsight, it was just green enough.
Maybe Alison would switch lives with me for a week{or maybe two or three}. Just to test the wonderfulness of our lives, y'know. Purely experimental. In the name of being grateful for what we have.
You do tend to raise interesting points. I'm going to check out some of your other commenters blogs and see whats going on over there.
Happy Monday to you! Chrissy
I too wished I could have done more before settling down. I got pregnant at age 21 on birth control(had the kid at 22). Andrew & I decided to wait to get married making sure it was LOVE. It was and things worked out the way they were supposed too. God definitely had plans for me that I didn't know about. Anyway I felt my younger years were taken away from me so every now and then I find myself saying "I wished I could have." You're not alone girlfriend. How's that for spilling it?
ReplyDeleteHey girl!! I've been awol to your blog for about a week and I've got a lot to catch up on!!!
ReplyDeleteI can totally see being a little bit jealous of your friend. That sounds like the life, doesn't it??
I am TOTALLY content and happy with my life, but it's always kinda fun to think about how much more EXCITING it could be if it was just a little bit different. But my kind of boring is okay too!
i did alot of things before i got married and had kids and i can tell you that even having lived the fun single life for a while...the grass still looks greener to me sometimes as well. so it must be human nature to wonder if the other people are happier than you. i think that they feel just like us, wishing they could finally settle down. i'll tell you what i think about whenver i start to feel nostalgic about the single life - remember what it is like to get dressed up and go out with your friends to a bar or club hoping you meet a nice guy...then remember coming home having met only loosers and getting in to your lonely littl bed :) that instantly snaps me back to reality. love my kids and love my husband even though he drives me nuts sometimes and our routine can get a "boring". thanks for sharing.
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