Bite Update and Birthday News!

Baby C’s birthday party was a huge success, and unfortunately the little girl I was concerned about didn’t end up coming. Apparently, she woke up screaming and wouldn’t stop crying for hours and then she bit her sister.

I say unfortunately because I have now seen another side of this situation. And once again that’s what I love about the world of the blog….it allows you to step outside of your box and step into the shoes of others.

After reading all the comments especially Jude and Ronda, it made me realize how devastating it is to be the giver and the receiver of a bite, and in the end I am glad that I invited her…especially after Ronda’s comment nearly brought me to tears.

I just wanted to respond to some of the comments in regards to the incident.

Gold – this mother is a very nice women as well, I think the difficultly comes in that she is also the assistance to the director of the center. Otherwise the child possibly might have taken some time off.

Jen – my husband kept telling out little one “Tell her you’re not an apple and not to bite you!”

Dawn – yes I do know the mother of the child and she is very aware that her child is a serious biter, and she also knows that she does it mostly because her older sister bosses her around and that’s how she retaliates. But unfortunately that’s how she responds to other kids as well even if they are not bothering her.

Chrissy – you’re crazy….you even imagine if I did smack the taste out of the little child mouth…oh my…I’d be in jail and how would I explain my actions to my little one…that would be a nightmare…I know you’re totally joking but I had to just think about it for a second there all the possible consequences WOW!.


Susie Q - Why is it that people don’t RSVP? I mean seriously. Do they just say “I don’t care” or do they forget. I just don’t get it personally and I find it rude and insulting…especially when they turn around call the MORNING of the party to ask for sizes for baby C or for directions!!! When they did Big C would ask them “What do you need directions for!”


Gnightgirl – With her mother working at the day care she was often aware that her child bit someone but I don’t think they report every incident to her, at least that’s my feeling. I say that’s my feeling because if that were me I’d keep my child out for a while.

Yolanda – how long did it take your son to out grow his hitting phase?

Melissa – yes I asked for an accident report on both occasions and whenever I see something I also ask for one even though I know kids will fall and bang their heads their kids but I still want a record of it. And I have voiced my concerns to both her immediate staff and of course my husband left his job and came up to day care TWICE and was very vocal about his concerns.

Now that the child is of age where she knows right from wrong if she does inflict anything on my daughter I will demand more of a response.


Corey – thank you so much for your words of advice….it was response from educators like yourself and Melissa that made me have a greater understanding of the situation and not feel so singled out as the victim. I even had to tell Big C to come and read all of the responses to this incident as he didn’t want to hear or accept anything about it being a phase or an age appropriate action.

Linda – If my husband had his way I think he would have taught Baby C to turn around had sock her but I think he knows in his heart of heart that it would only make the situation worse. But we can dream right!

Carla – was it hard to refrain when the little girl scratched your son! It would be so hard for me if I actually saw the action. Both times I only saw the after affects thank god!

Stephanie – what did you do when Conner got bit?

Cheryl – I think I pray every week that Baby C doesn’t become a biter…especially as there isn’t a sure method to stop it or sure reason as to why it starts.

Jude – I told Big C about your son drawing blood when he bit and if you could have seen his face! I think Big C would be in jail if her skin had been broken. I felt for you when I read your response it made me realize there are two victims in this incident.

Ronda P. – Of course your response brought me to tears and made me feel so good that I’d put on my big girl panties and invited the child to Baby C’s birthday party even if she didn’t come. I just thought about how it must have made the mother feel, like all is not lost and we can get through this together…well together without Big C that is!!! LOL

Thank you everyone for all your responses and comments, I don't think you have any idea how valuable and meaningful they all were to me. I swear this is why I love the land of the blog, where else could I have collected so much useful information and so much raw emotional support?

And to thank you all...I updated my slide show at the top of my blog with a 290 picture slide show of Baby C's birthday! Yes I did say 290...there were two cameras from different angles so some feel like duplicates but they are not! But here are my favorites though:

LET THE PARTY BEGIN!

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Baby C greeting her guests!





This little boy was born same day,
same hospital, both his daddy and Big C work together.

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Birthday Kisses!


Birthday Cake!

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This little boy was ALSO born same day,
same hospital and we all kept in contact.

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I was told the cake was good, I didn't taste it!

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Bouncing with daddy!

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Her bestest day care buddy friend,
you might recognize him from the easter egg hunt

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When all was said and done!